If he wants to be with you, you’ll know it from the first series of dates. You Feel Like You’re Playing Mom: If you’re dating a boy, you may feel like you’re taking over the mom role.
When you come by his place, his apartment (or living space) is filthy, his laundry is undone because he doesn’t know how to work the machine and he only eats junk and fast food because he doesn’t know how to cook because he never really had to (PB&J and Ramen Noodles don’t qualify).
Bradley notes that a teen's choice of a boyfriend is part of her effort to separate herself from you -- and, for a rebellious teen, a way to test you and "push your buttons." Instead of judging or criticizing the new boyfriend, keep the focus on your daughter and how the relationship appears to be working for her.
It just depends on his actions and where he is in life. A boy will have you playing the guessing game, where you’re constantly asking yourself “Are we really dating? He may even tell you that he’d rather just “hook up” or be friends instead of talking to you straight about where he is mentally and what he truly wants from the relationship.
For one thing, it keeps him where you can see him when he's with your daughter.
For another, it gives you a chance to try to get to know him face to face, heading off your daughter's inevitable "you don't even know him" complaints.
The only difference is that a real man will push through his fears and go for it anyway because you’re worth it.
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Bradley adds that another important element of having him in your home is that he experiences your family's interactions and standards, and your daughter can see first-hand that he may not really fit in to your family's life.