If you chose to proceed in dating him, I caution you to proceed slowly and with eyes wide open. Comments like, “Bah, I just want it over,” or “Doesn’t matter, we’ve been strangers for years,” may seem casual, even confident — but they also mask what’s going on underneath and behind the scenes.
Before you consider getting back into the dating game, you’ll need some real honest talks with your ex. If your ex is hoping for a reconciliation, they’re not going to love the idea of you dating someone new.
For example, the judge might disapprove of the dating spouse's behavior and develop a bias against them.
While such a bias is ostensibly unacceptable in the U. legal system, judges are human and biases are natural and even probable in some instances.
( still married; just saying…) Now before anyone accuses me of picking on men, let me hasten to say that separated women can be just as “challenging” to date as separated men.
In fact, I pity any man who dated me when I was separated; I was messed up, and didn’t even know it!
On the other hand, you’re still legally married and some ties are still there.