(When we're both at college, he's four hours away, so we visit about every three weeks). However, the fact that we're 19 and we've been together for so long (and never dated or hooked up with anyone else) is starting to feel a bit weird.We talked about this situation recently, and both of us agreed we kind of want to see what it's like to date other people, but we really don't want to break up because we still love each other so much.I may not yet know all of the difficulties that come with a lifetime commitment, but I have enough relationship experience to know what I want and how I picture my life with the person I will commit to: you.Those around me are a continuous source of education and inspiration on how I want our relationship to be.Try to talk about that kind of thing – and all important topics – in person. Ah, schoolyard love; the nervousness you feel in your stomach as you watch him swing towards you across the monkey bars; the butterflies that appear in your stomach as you wait behind her for your turn to go down the slide.We talked about trying an open relationship when we go back to school, but we're worried one or both of us might start having feelings for other people, and one or both of us will wind up jealous and upset. My boyfriend is my best friend and I don't think I'll lose him if we try this, but it seems likely that at least one of us will get hurt.I really love him and I'm not sure giving into FOMO (fear of missing out) is worth putting strain on our relationship. – A 19-Year-Old Old Married Lady I can't promise you'll stay together if you seek out other experiences. At this point, you both want to date other people when you return to school.
So I have to ask: When I watched you prepare Queen Christina of Sweden's robes, and you looked back at me, was that an I-could-be-interested kind of look, or did you just have something in your eye? Not just because my visa was about to expire but also because you were surprisingly good-looking for an American. If Aristotle is a man, and all men enjoy sexual intercourse, then Aristotle would surely enjoy sexual intercourse.
I am ignorant of many things, but I do understand something about the art of love: it's just asking a lot of questions until the other person is too tired to go on. —It seems to me that it is essential to eliminate doubt and determine certainty. That is all I need.—Permit me to deduce the reason we should be together.
What you need is an older man who can define the self through a continuity of consciousness and also survive the Great Plague. Now, I'm afraid your love is as infectious as a rapidly spreading disease, your smile as contagious as an infected rat flea. But you can't blame me if the end is happiness.
Your best bet is to get lax with the exclusivity and to promise to be good communicators as you figure out how it feels. Are you supposed to tell each other everything about your dating experiences?
(For the record, I don't recommend this.) If you have sex with someone else, will you share that information?
So here and today, I vow to try my best to do the following: I promise to do my best to make you beam daily, so count on many surprises. I get weak knees when anybody smiles, so just imagine the effort I will make to be the source of yours.