OR it could mean that you’re looking to date as a distraction in […] Read more Ah, the luck of the Irish!Contrary to popular belief, they do not all have red hair, fiery tempers, consume gallons of ale, and believe in leprechauns.
To them, relationships with women are transactional.
“Nice,” to a man, means being soft, gentle and kind. Ask any guy you know, and he’ll likely give you example after example of women they know who said they wanted a nice guy but in reality wanted a bad boy. Being nice means you think of others before you think about yourself.
It means asking your husband how his day was and really listening. That’s because just as most men are attracted to femininity, or softness, most women are attracted to masculinity. (And yes, there’s such thing as being too nice and putting your needs last; but I’m not talking about that.) It means you’re attune to the needs of others and incorporate those needs into the equation. Now for the record, I don’t mean men are looking for a pushover. Being soft, gentle and kind does not mean you have no life or opinions of your own.
Women like my hair stylist and my editor at Fox, or even my own daughter (though at 17, I can’t call her a “woman” just yet), ooze niceness. Being nice just means being nice, the same way you’re nice to your friends or to your co-workers.
Problem is, women have been taught that being a nice or solicitous wife equates to servitude, as though a woman’s niceness automatically equates to being a mouse—whereupon her husband will walk all over her. Most husbands have no desire to lord over their wives, but they don’t want to fight with them either. And the nicer you are, the more likely they are to find it.
He treats her like a friend by being close to her, being supportive, or doing favors for her.