I remember the weeks and months surrounding Valentine’s Day - particularly during my time as a single woman. I would have invited him to shift my heart and open my eyes to what he was doing.Walking through the stores, you notice that the string of lights and row of trees have been replaced by red hearts, chocolates and flowers. If I knew then what I know now, here’s what I would have prayed: 1. One way I would have prayed differently is asking God to help me trust him more. I wasn’t there to discuss the matter with him, I was there to tell him what I wanted. Looking back at my time as a single I see God’s grace all over my story, and the path he had paved for me.As I look back, I see how much I missed out on life because I was worrying, analyzing, and planning, instead of resting in assurance of his perfect plans.I believe in the power of prayer, and I think that praying for the people we love is so important, in our spiritual walk as well as those that we pray for.I feel so loved when someone prays for me, prays over me, or just shoots me a text or e-mail letting me know they are praying for me.Whether or not dating couples should pray together is a touchy subject.
Some days, I don’t know how I could get through life if I was not able to carry my joy and sorrow to the Lord in prayer. If I could go back to those discussions with God, I would spend less time venting to him and more time listening. But there are so many things I know now, that I didn’t know then.It’s not wise to date someone you would not consider marrying, but not every relationship, even godly relationships, move forward to marriage.If you believe the Lord is directing you to end your dating relationship, it will be much harder to do so once you and your boyfriend or girlfriend have bonded your hearts together through intimate (and especially consistent) times of prayer. When we go before the Lord, we confess sin and make our needs and desires known (at least, verbally – God already knows what we need), and sometimes we cry out to Him with our questions and frustrations. It’s a time when we pour our hearts out to God and hopefully a time when we quietly wait to hear Him speak to our hearts.You will never hear me (by the grace of God) tell someone that he or she should not pray; however, before a couple commits to marry each other, I would recommend that they exercise caution in spending too much time praying together.