My two best friends, also casual drinkers, say this is a HUGE red flag, that alcoholics, even ones in recovery, are difficult to deal with.
Sort of like dating a christian when you're an atheist.
I have a college friend who is in recovery, and I adore her.
Other than that, I don't have much interface with addicts, I guess. People who are addicted to alcohol and drugs are usually masking something deeper.
For him, romance and recovery can be a highly successful combination—if done right.
“I think it’s much easier dating a fellow alcoholic,” he says. There is nothing worse than having to ask someone to brush their teeth before you kiss them because they’ve been drinking.
You can tell them, “I’ve been in six rehabs, four psych wards, and I’ve been arrested for assault.” And, they’re like, “Of course you have.” The downside is that they, too, are often a ticking time bomb.
Ask him/ her about their unhappy experience and at the same time share with your partner your views and experiences with alcoholism.
During the past two decades, I’ve dated both men in recovery and men who weren’t alcoholics (called “normies” by us in the program).
I’m currently single again, a sober divorcée in the strange world of online dating. How do you allude to your past (and present) situations without lying or scaring off a potential match?
Have any DLers dated or are dating a recovering alcoholic? If the person has addressed their issue, and is working on living life and being a productive member of society - I don’t see a problem with it.
People get all whacked out about dating someone that is in recovery or had a problem in the past. In general - I find the AA adherents to be insufferable after a while.
Alcoholism is a chronic mental health disorder that a person usually struggles with for his or her entire life.