The science of human attraction would suggest that you want to find a photo that gives you as young and symmetrical an appearance as possible if you are a woman (bilateral symmetry being an indicator of health and fertility that we are evolutionarily predisposed to seek in a mate), and as wealthy and symmetrical as possible (along with genotype dominant, i.e., brown eyes, dark hair and a strong jaw and brow, if you can manage) if you are a man.
Sadly, I don’t know of any science that explains how to make such a photo an honest representation of yourself if you are 40-something, fair-skinned, somewhat lopsided and bald, like me.
When determining what you want to put in your profile, you need to first know what your best qualities are.
There's nothing sexier to a man than your confidence.
The only difference is in real life you have time to immediately correct a faux pas.
You are literally marketing yourself to the male population online.I've got a number of brilliant, beautiful, frank, funny friends, all capable of remarkable things, but writing an enticing online profile does not seem to be one of them. Some people offer their services in soup kitchens, some volunteer to shampoo crude oil off of sad, gooey pelicans; I rewrite online dating profiles.It all started when my pal Paula asked me to figure out why she wasn't getting a response to her JDate ad. " What I get is that we all want to be loved for exactly who we are. " It wasn't long before news that I'd taken Paula's profile from drab to fab spread far and wide (okay, a couple of people in Brooklyn heard). I've seen the dumb, the dull, and the klutzy; the bitter, the brazen, and the too cute by half.Here are the top things I learned when working with people on theirs—that will work for you, too. But the e-Cyrano method would have you choose the best, most concise example of one time you were funny with an ex and put it into present tense: “When you have a bad day, I’ll dress like Homer (your favorite Simpsons character) and do impressions of him until you feel better.” 3) Write 200 words or less.One engaging paragraph is far better than endless run-on sentences.Keep your profile positive and you soon will be attracting all sorts of potential partners.